How separation from their parents affects children
Separating or divorcing brings with it strong emotional pain for both parents and children. This is how it affects children.
Separation or divorce is not a dish of good taste for anyone and brings with it strong emotional pain for both adults and children. It is rare for the child who does not suffer when seeing how his parents separate and this entails a series of problems to which great attention must be paid. The degree of suffering will depend on various factors such as the age of the minor, the relationship with their parents or personality. As for the typical reactions of children, it is worth highlighting sadness, helplessness or anger. Take good note of this series of tips that will make divorce or separation of parents much more bearable for children between 6 and 10 years old.
THERE ARE NO CULPRITS
One of the great problems that arise with the separation or divorce of the parents is the fact that the children themselves feel guilty and responsible for this fact. It is therefore important to sit down with the minors and make them understand that they are not at fault and that the separation is due to a series of circumstances that have nothing to do with guilt. You have to make them understand that it was the parents who have decided to leave the relationship and not live together. From here on, the affective relationship should be the same despite the separation or divorce carried out.
AVOID PUTTING OFF PARENTS
It is quite normal in a separation, to use the son to attack the other parent and turn him totally against him. The problem is that children are at an age where they are quite vulnerable because of everything they hear, they end up suffering without any need. Parents must deal with the fact of separation or divorce in the best possible way and put the minors aside. It is not a good idea to confront the minor with the parents since the mere fact of the separation or divorce is a very painful fact and difficult to digest.
CONVEY THE NEWS WITH LOVE
When communicating the bad news to children, it is advisable to choose a quiet place and do it in a relaxed and loving way. It is possible that the child does not take it too well so you have to be understandable at all times and hope that it will accept it over time. You have to stay firm at all times and respond slowly to all the questions that the little one may have. In these difficult times, it is essential to dress him as well as possible and make him feel loved by his parents.
KEEPING YOUR COMPOSURE AFTER THE BREAKUP
After the separation, try to lead a life as normal as possible and carry out various activities with the child so that he can enjoy himself as much as possible without thinking about the marriage breakdown of his parents. He should not feel estranged, so you have to be with him for as long as possible and understand that despite the separation, he will always have his parents by his side.
With these tips, the child will be able to cope with as much as possible such a difficult moment in his life as is the case of the separation or divorce of his parents. It must be remembered that on many occasions the one who suffers the most from the separation is the minor himself, so it is necessary to avoid that he suffers more than necessary and can continue to enjoy the love of his parents.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.