Children with behavior problems at school

Sometimes children do not take the behavior that we would like. It is normal for them to have ups and downs in school, however, it is not that their bad behavior is constant. Therefore, the child’s parents and teachers must learn to find the causes of misbehavior and teach the child to behave properly.

CAUSES THAT LEAD THE CHILD TO MISBEHAVE AT SCHOOL

It is quite common that the child in his first stage in school from 3 to 12 years old, misbehaves to attract the attention of teachers and his classmates . This behavior can be founded in the home itself. The little one likes to have the attention of his parents and, if it is not good, it will be doing something bad. So his parents will look at him, even if it is to scold him. However, it is not that he likes that his parents get angry with him, it is that when he does something that they dislike, they stop what they were doing to focus on him, which is what the child wants .

TRY TO KNOW YOUR CHILD’S SITUATION AT SCHOOL

The fact that the child has siblings can also be an important factor in his bad behavior. If he does not have them, it is likely that he will receive more attention from his parents and relatives and it will be more difficult for him to realize at school that he is not the only child and that he must respect turns and other cordialities of coexistence. However, if you have siblings, you can also misbehave because of jealousy . If the little one always gets his way or is more protected by the parents, the older one may have the need to misbehave to attract attention or simply to feel more valued.

As the child grows, his capacity for language and with it manipulation also increases. Therefore, the little one will learn that if he behaves well he gets more material things from the parents and can use it to his advantage , while if he does not get what he wanted he will misbehave on purpose to finally get his way.

HOW TO DEAL WITH THE ISSUE FROM THE PARENTS’ POINT OF VIEW

As parents we must bear in mind that the sooner we take control of the situation, the sooner we can eradicate the problem. As the child grows and misbehavior increases, it will be more difficult to redirect his actions. Therefore, at home we will always try to have a climate free of fights, yelling and disrespect . With this we will help the child to feel more comfortable in his own home and not repeat unwanted actions or words. In addition, as parents, we will provide them with adequate rest hours, in addition to the necessary hygiene and food.

We will not let the child get away with misbehavior. It is very easy to see when the little one tries to blackmail us by saying “If I behave well …” or “… otherwise I will behave badly.” If we pay attention to these conditions, it is most likely that you will not stop using them. Even if he cries in public, we must not grant him what he wants without us agreeing. We simply have to let him have a few tantrums so that he realizes that they are not going to help him get away with it and then, gradually, he will stop using them as a conditioner of our behavior.

TRUST AND COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW THE CHILD FEELS

Again, we will have to let him misbehave for a while without paying any attention to him so that he is aware himself that the bad behavior will not help him to get our attention at home (and he probably understands that it will also not work for him at school).

HOW TO DEAL WITH THE SUBJECT FROM THE TEACHERS’ POINT OF VIEW

If the child’s misbehavior at home is transferred to school, it is very likely that the teachers will contact the parents to make them aware of it. It is then when the educator and the parents must work together and find a solution to the problem so that, little by little, the child learns to have good behavior both at home and at school.

As a teacher it is exasperated that the child misbehaves in class, since it slows down the learning process for everyone, in addition to creating a bad environment among the rest of their classmates. Whether or not you count on the help of the child’s parents, the teacher must stand up to him and show him that he is the authority and that there are a series of rules at school that all children must meet equally.

If the child is very nervous and wants to constantly attract attention, it is best to keep him busy in class. The more time you spend concentrating on an assignment, the less you have to annoy the teacher. The bad behavior can actually come together with other children who will incentivize it , if that happens this way teachers can move them around in class, because apart will have fewer chances to misbehave.

The most important thing is that as an authority of wisdom and welfare of the class is that the teacher is constant in his punishments . This means that you do not miss a child who is misbehaving or any of his classmates if he does something similar.

If the child learns that he must respect the teacher and do what he says, he will know that his bad behavior is not well received at school. For this, it is very important that from home he is taught, not only not to misbehave, but also to respect authority and to do what he is told.