It seems that through social networks it is increasingly easy to embarrass the motherhood of other mothers when the same opinions are not shared … enough already!
There are many mothers who feel shame caused by other mothers and this can cause them a lot of emotional pain. It could be an attack on a social network by someone you don’t even know but that other users have been able to read, or a comment from another mother at the children’s school. There are many situations in which a mother can feel ashamed and have a really bad time.
There is always someone who does not hesitate to criticize other people without taking into account what it may do to the person who receives the message. Online attacks are increasingly frequent with hurtful comments towards mothers in bikini, breastfeeding their babies or simply for showing a part of their daily life as a messy living room. It is a level of bullying between mothers that should be eradicated, because mothers should be united in society instead of feeling like enemies or a totally opposite team … Although in reality, we are all on the same maternity team!
We all know that being a mother is a difficult job and in addition to dealing with feelings of uncertainty and frustration, today’s mothers are constantly under a social microscope. The last thing a mother needs is to be embarrassed for trying to raise her children in the best possible way.
WHY ARE OTHER PEOPLE SHAMING MOTHERS
Embarrassing mothers is not something new, but now with the internet and social networks, the intensity of this type of harassment and emotional pain increases for those who receive hurtful messages. From the weight that is lost with the baby to not losing it and criticizing that, calling mothers lazy when they are in the parks with their children or when they are not involved in parenting, etc.
Usually, when people embarrass others, they feel justified in launching attacks online. They rationalize that the victim’s behavior , actions, or photos justify such treatment … when in reality no one has the right to criticize or emotionally harm another person through harassment in words.
But when it comes to embarrassing a mother, many times moms have done nothing blatantly wrong. Instead, mothers are being attacked for something as simple as when to introduce solid foods, whether it’s from breastfeeding or using formula milk or whether or not sleeping together is a good or bad idea.
Most of the time, people who embarrass others for their parenting decisions feel inadequate in their own parenting skills . As a result, online shame gives them an outlet to justify their own beliefs … Other times, mothers will embarrass other moms because they are jealous of their life and feel inferior.
Maybe the mom who is being embarrassed is a woman with a good body because she trains daily. Instead of celebrating the hard work it took to get there, she is criticized for being self-absorbed and focusing on her own health over that of her children, even if this belief does not reflect reality …
Other times, moms embarrass others because people who go through the community on Facebook pages get bored or looking for entertainment … and they do it by attacking others and waiting for responses from offended people to enjoy generating that virtual toxic environment .
Or, they may be angry or frustrated with their own situation at home and looking for a way to vent. It should always be kept in mind that there is no way to hear the tone of voice or see facial expressions over the Internet. Sometimes what is interpreted as a bad thing may have been a bad joke attempt or sarcasm. Finally, some people embarrass others because they seek recognition and validation … If everyone jumps on the bandwagon and agrees with the negative evaluation of someone else, it can be very rewarding even if they don’t do it right …
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.