Especially in the times in which we live, when 24 hours is never enough to carry out all the necessary activities, jobs or errands, it is very easy for a family to be trapped by stress. This internal discomfort is often responsible for possible family arguments that may arise, but it is important to discover how we can control ourselves to avoid arguments in our family.
STRESS IN PREGNANCY
We started from the beginning, with the stress in the nine months of gestation . Have you ever wondered how stress during pregnancy affects a baby ? Worries, trouble falling asleep, and doubts about childbirth can cause a lot of anxiety, and the number one recommendation for this is to stay as calm as possible throughout the entire pregnancy. Like everything in life, this is easier said than done, but it always helps to take into account the recommendations of the experts.
A PREGNANT WOMAN HAS TO ASK FOR HELP WHEN SHE NEEDS IT
Practice yoga. In fact, after delivery you can also continue to relax in this way and even both you and the baby can practice these exercises in the same center and at the same time, in order to enjoy a fun multiplied by two.
Drink tea and any infusion that relaxes you . Do not forget that, especially in summer, swimming is very calming . When you get nervous, remember to take a deep breath.
HOW PARENTAL STRESS AFFECTS CHILDREN
They say that arguments are not at all negative for a couple . In fact, those who silence their feelings can hardly have an effective coexistence with their partner. But when it comes to living under the same roof with children, taking care of the forms is essential . The fights between parents? What do children think about it?
When we live day after day with the same people, it is normal that small details such as the disorder that our partner causes at home and the way in which he never puts things in their place, get us out of our hearts . Or the late hour when he goes to sleep, and the discomfort caused by the light of the lamp that he uses to read the newspaper when we want to sleep.
But the little ones must live in a positive and relaxed environment, and it is for this reason that we must speak instead of shouting, and reflect and listen to our partner instead of imposing our point of view at all costs.
Let’s not forget that a child, when he hears the screams of his parents and especially a mention of his person, will feel that he is to blame for the discussion, when really – and we know this very well – it is the opposite.
The best we can do is breathe before addressing our partner when we are angry, listen to the other to encourage communication as a couple and, whenever a child is present , not yell! They will appreciate it, and so will we.
WHEN A WORKER SPENDS A FEW HOURS AT HOME
It is curious but, after the labor movement finally got the 8 hours of work so that workers in Spain could enjoy their well-deserved free time with their loved ones, a work addiction has arisen capable of radically eliminating leisure time .
Many make work their life and, despite the fact that they dedicate extra hours in order to guarantee the well-being of their family and ensure that they lack nothing, what they do not understand is that many times their family is indifferent to money if it that he does not receive at home is affection.
It is a problem when a parent spends more time at work than at home, and when they come home they are too stressed out with their job responsibilities to actually be present at dinner.
Considering it a problem can sometimes be difficult because the work itself is positive, being a necessary commitment to succeed in this life. On the other hand, no one doubts that an alcohol addict or a gambler who suffers from a gambling addiction needs help. But the addiction to work is not only a problem, but a serious problem, since those affected are frequently reproached by their family and with these criticisms they assure that this person works too much. You find yourself suddenly losing friends, your entire life revolves around work, and leaving your company to get home to your family can be agonizing as you are filled with guilt. Even free time will seem like a waste of time that does not bring anything good.
WORK IS NECESSARY, BUT OVERDOING IT MAKES CHILDREN FEEL LONELY
The profile of the workaholic? There are more cases of men than women, and they are usually between forty and fifty years old.
It is easy to understand why someone with a work addiction feels unhappy. Stress is a daily problem, and this individual tends to move away from his exterior to think and talk only about work. You have severe headaches and an increased chance of having a heart attack. If last summer the holidays meant the countdown to returning to the office for you, and you do not know what to do with your free time except think about work and plan future work projects, you must understand that professional success is not everything to be happy. No one has an obligation to be perfect, and instead we all deserve to enjoy our family and friends, especially when it comes to weekends and summer or Christmas vacations. Your children will need money for their studies,they will feel lonely , precisely at the age when they will need their family the most.
The first step is to recognize the problem as such; later, seek help from those who can offer it to us, carry out activities with our loved ones to reduce little by little the daily hours we dedicate to work.