If you have children, you will know that these limitations are common in your life … and before they were the most normal thing for you!
No, you don’t have a super hero cape and you don’t need one either. You don’t have to be able to do everything to be a good mother, you don’t need magic to be who you are. You should start by being honest with who you are and how far you can go. If you are a parent, this also goes for you. You are parents , and although sometimes you feel that you really need superpowers, they are not always necessary.
The pressure to become a Super Mom is sometimes overwhelming, even suffocating for some. For this reason, women often succumb to the pressures of becoming an overperforming mother to the point that they end up losing their identity in the process.
A LIST OF MANY THINGS TO DO
The (current and paternity) Motherhood is a long list of demands that include everything: nights without sleeping , diapering, dinners, homework help, nursing, running errands, etc. Both mothers and fathers today are very busy on a daily basis.
You have to be very careful not to lose your identity in motherhood. No one knows exactly when it happens, but almost all mothers feel a loss of identity at some point in their journey through motherhood. Suddenly you realize that things are different. She is different. Remember the days when you used to worry about your appearance. The days when he slept if he wanted, watched what interested him on television and ate when he was hungry … that is a thing of the past.
Parents now have other people on their mind whenever they must make decisions. On many occasions their wants and needs are not important and they take a back seat to make way for what their children need.
MOTHERHOOD CHANGES YOUR LIFE
There is something wonderful about being a mother. It is an experience like no other. But with it comes a series of changes. For example, having children can have a huge impact on your personality and temperament . Maybe you’re used to being a social butterfly, but now with a new baby at home, you can’t see your friends that often. Or maybe the demands of your kids’ schedules keep you from doing the things you once enjoyed.
You never go to concerts and haven’t read one book cover to another in years. Suddenly your life is not what it used to be. Because of this, you can start to lose an idea of who you are because your life seems to revolve around what your children need and has little to do with what you might need.
MOTHERHOOD LIMITS YOUR FREEDOM
Before your children arrived, you were likely in full control of your life. You decided when and what you were going to do every day and nothing was pressing or attracting your attention. You may have also spent more time in your career by attending conferences and workshops, networking with people in your industry and having lunch with colleagues … Your money was also spent on yourself and your needs.
But now the children have arrived and you have little time for that. Perhaps you have even given up your career to dedicate yourself to your house or your children (the same can happen to you in your fatherhood if you are a father who is reading this). Whatever your choice, you often find that there are not enough hours in the day to adjust to everything you used to do because your children are ALWAYS the priority. You just don’t have the time or the freedom to be who you once were.
MOTHERHOOD REDUCES YOUR ENERGY
Sometimes being a mother is exhausting, especially when your children are babies. As a result, it is not uncommon for mothers to be sleep deprived most days, operating on only a few hours of sleep. Consequently, trying to function in this state requires a lot of mental strength , and sometimes you just have the energy for what absolutely has to be done. Forget about finding time to do other things that are not essential. All you can think about is the next time your head hits the pillow … And if days and months like this go by, before you know it, the person you once were is just a distant memory.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.