You may have had to come across one of them in your life: the bad mother. She is the typical mother who tries to make the lives of others miserable . She is the typical mother who believes that she has the right to exclude others or spread rumors while stabbing other mothers in the back. She is the one who criticizes others, talks about neighbors or makes inappropriate comments about other mothers because they do not meet ‘their own educational standards’.
This type of mother is often cruel to other mothers and uses intimidation techniques. The rise of social networks, discussions in WhatsApp groups or comments on social networks are new weapons. The result is women and mothers who feel attacked by those bad mothers. It seems that it is a problem in silence that begins to grow.
WHY ARE THERE MOTHERS WHO BEHAVE LIKE THIS?
Adult women who bully others do so for the same reasons that teens bully others. They want power, especially social power. And they often use relational aggression as their weapon of choice. This type of covert bullying is subtle and hurtful … and worst of all, it is effective for them.
When these abusive women use their relationships to create social drama, they take advantage of the connections between other people to feel stronger and believe that they are in control. Victims do not understand what is happening or why it is happening. There are mothers who behave this way because of jealousy and envy. They feel these toxic emotions when another mother’s child receives recognition and theirs does not. Or perhaps they covet another mother’s relationship with the teacher or the principal of the school. The goal of this bad mother is to take away what the other mother has.
In general, an evil mother has a hard time feeling happy about someone else’s success . If you are ‘friends’ with an evil mother, you should realize right away that this is not a healthy friendship for you. Instead, this friendship is more likely to be a toxic relationship because she is a fake friend.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE WICKED MOTHERS
When you receive attacks from another mother, you may even begin to doubt yourself. Your self-esteem can be sore and you feel lonely and isolated, and even embarrassed. These consequences are painful if you have ever been bullied by another person. But you owe it to yourself and to your children and for that reason, you must face these situations and let them not affect you, because here the problem is not yours. Although sometimes doing it is not easy, it can be done. If you don’t know how to treat these types of mothers, follow these tips.
it is not about you
You are not the problem so stop blaming yourself if someone else tries to intimidate you, they are probably envious of you and that person feels insecure about themselves. There is something wonderful about you that makes him feel insecure. He may be envious of your success, home, or your relationship. Any reason is enough!
The key is not to take your bullying seriously. There is nothing wrong with you. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out what you need to change or how to do to like it … That person has to be out of your life. Also, remember that you are probably not the only target she is teasing. And even if it seems like that, not everyone will believe his lies, with time his true face will be discovered.
If possible, don’t argue with an evil mother. Feeling bad emotionally , upset, or even angry only makes the bullying worse because it gives it the power it wants to have over you. Bullies tend to feel empowered in cyberspace because they can hide behind a keyboard. Socializing with them only fuels the fire and they often hear even more hate and cruel comments. Instead, stay strong against their bullying.
Remember, she can choose to bully, but you can choose how to respond to her. And when you stay calm in the face of bullying, you are taking away its power. On the contrary, if you allow it to get under your skin, it will feel more powerful and in control as a result. It will probably continue to sign up for you because you allow it. Bullies want to have a reaction . Make sure you refuse to give him what he expects.
Remember that only you are the owner of your life, your emotions and your upbringing. Share your time with someone who is really worth it: your family and close friends.