It is customary to tell children that Santa Claus, the Three Wise Men or the Tooth Fairy are magical beings who bring them gifts, but at some point they must know the truth.
Throughout the world there are many myths that speak of magical beings that will bring children gifts and happiness on important dates.
Santa Claus , for example, a mythical character in much of the world who distributes gifts to children to bring the spirit of Christmas into homes and bring happiness to all homes. The myth of Santa Claus tells that this particular man lives and works in the North Pole , making all year round the toys and gifts that he has to distribute to all the children on Christmas Day. But he does not do it alone. All the children who have grown up with Santa Claus know that he is helped by a lot of elves that he works with in his factory, thus speeding up his process. In addition, the figure of Santa Claus is always accompanied by a huge sleigh pulled by reindeer, Rudolph being the one who has the most social depth and the most is known about.
We can talk about the Three Wise Men in Spain , three biblical characters who each brought a gift to the baby Jesus, gifts that, according to legend, were myrrh, incense and gold, and that on January 6 they offered the child in the manger as a gift for his birth. After this event, the tradition is that “the Kings” in January distribute gifts to all children and fulfill the same function that Santa Claus does in the rest of the world: he leaves gifts at home when the children sleep.
Following the review of the myths, we can find figures like the Tooth Fairy in Spain, or the Tooth Fairy in the rest of the world. And it is a figure that rewards children when their teeth fall out. Legend has it that if you put the tooth under your bed, the Tooth Fairy (or a Tooth Fairy) will come and exchange your tooth for money or a gift.
In other cultures we can also find the Easter Bunny at Easter, who brings chocolates and gifts to children on those dates and which is very typical in the United States, although this task in Spain is carried out directly by the godparents and godmothers.
HOW DO WE TELL THEM THE TRUTH?
What all these magical figures that fill children with joy have in common is, of course, that they are not real. Those in charge of the smile and the shouts of joy at Christmas are entirely the parents, and it is a difficult concept to explain to the little ones who have believed in these characters since their birth. And not only that they have believed, but it has been their parents who have told them about them, reinforcing the idea in their heads and letting them believe in the magic of the world and Christmas . Even if it was a lie.
So the problem here is, how do I tell my son that, for example, the Three Wise Men do not exist? How do I tell you the truth? Do you think I have lied to you all these years? What if he starts asking me?
Well then, don’t panic. Each child is different, and there is no appropriate age to tell them, but their little minds develop at different rates, and they will do their research on it before coming to you. Friends, school, and what they hear on the street influence, of course, but there will be a time when your child begins to question magic in its entirety. However, there are a few guidelines you can follow to discuss the issue with your sons and daughters.
GUIDELINES FOR REVEALING THE TRUTH
Wait for them to ask you: You don’t have to be the one to address the issue and perhaps this is the most important. Do not answer him directly and answer him with another question “What do you think?” Thus, according to his answer, you will be able to test the waters and know where you have to tread and where not, without risking telling him more than he can assume. We have to bear in mind that there are children more sensitive than others and not all can take it in the same way.
If you have a question about the Mouse Perez or Santa Claus, it is natural to also expect that he begins to consider the veracity of the tale of the Magi and asks you directly. In this case, the issue of religion may also be raised, but we repeat that not all children react in the same way.
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO TELL THEM IN A LANGUAGE THEY CAN UNDERSTAND
When they are still young, you can make up a story to explain the story, for example that the Kings have too much workload for one night and then they ask their parents for help to be able to reach all the children. Thus, not only are you making the idea that the Kings really do not have a real presence at Christmas, but you are also making yourself part of the magic to a greater or lesser extent , which can help soften the blow that can suppose. If the child is older and has not yet discovered the truth, you can always tell him that what you were telling him was not a lie, but that it is part of the Christmas tradition to tell that story to the children to give life to the dates and that they feel happy.
IF YOUR CHILD IS CLEAR ABOUT HIS DOUBTS, DO NOT LIE TO HIM
Do not think that “is that he is going to lose the illusion” and want to extend the story one more Christmas to continue living that almost magical illusion of the little one the night before the gifts. Tell him the truth, because if he expresses his serious doubts, it will mean that he is already prepared for your sincerity. Also, if you don’t tell him at that time, later on he may feel cheated and frustrated and think that you may be cheating him in other areas of his life, and that is something we want to avoid at all costs .
Finally, do not let the Christmas magic go away with the tale of the Magi and keep making the date something special to share with your children, make them part of it and make sure they feel just as excited and happy as you when you buy their presents.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.