Sexuality is one of the most complex issues to deal with with our children, not because of the generational conflict that it entails, but because of how difficult the issue can be for parents . Naturalness and preparation are the keys to treating sex for what it is, just another human behavior.
There are two stages in the growth of the minor where sex is a determining topic of conversation . The first is the discovery phase, where sexuality is an unknown for your child and he begins to discover what exists behind that word. The second phase is the active one, in which the adolescent begins to feel and experience his sexuality. Each of these stages requires a different treatment by the parents.
WHAT IS SEX
The first encounter of a child with sex occurs from the age of 5, an age that can vary depending on the child’s environment. It is a particularly confusing period, since few are the minors who discover what sex is in a clear and natural way.
Usually, our children come to us after hearing other people talk about sex, something that can happen at any time and that forces you to be prepared. Naturalness is the basis for the minor not to feel sex as a taboo subject . In no case try to delay the conversation, since although the children’s attention is volatile, the question will continue to circulate in their minds.
The treatment of the subject must be exhaustive to clear up your doubts, but not necessarily detailed. It is in the mentality of each parent to decide to what extent they want to delve into the issue, but taking into account the reactions of the child to this new information, since they can understand the sexual act as something violent , given its high physical load.
SEXUALITY AS A BEHAVIOR PRODUCT OF LOVE BETWEEN TWO ADULTS
TALKING ABOUT SEX WITH YOUR TEENAGE SON
Puberty will trigger your child’s active discovery of sexuality, first through masturbation and later with other people.
At this stage, the young person usually has enough information to understand the physical act, and health and psychology associated with sexuality are the most important issues to be discussed . Crowds of teenagers start sex without being sure enough, as if it were a mere procedure, you must explain to your son that it is not like that and that he should only start having sex if he really wants to and if he feels comfortable with the other person.
THEY FEEL RUSHED WHEN TALKING ABOUT THE SUBJECT AND DO NOT CLEAR THEIR DOUBTS
You should pay special attention to treating sexually transmitted diseases , both between people of the same sex and between people of the opposite sex. Highlight the importance of condoms as a barrier against AIDS and other STDs , and do not hesitate to offer them yourself.
The talk about sexuality between parents and children is difficult, but essential so that they grow up with an open mind and without prejudice, and can enjoy their sexual life with health.