If you want to talk to your children and that communication is correct, do not make these mistakes when talking to them.
When he tries to talk to the children, there are some mistakes that are worth not making so that in this way, the communication is successful. Communication between parents and children should be a rewarding experience for both parties, that is easy and effective. If you want to achieve this, you will have to avoid these very common mistakes!
THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO
- Not giving your full attention. This is very important when you are talking about something important or serious with your children, but also when they are telling you anything. If your children speak to you, look away from your phone, television, or any other device. Your child deserves your full attention. Do not talk to others at the same time, eliminate background noise and find a quiet place to speak better.
- Not having your child’s full attention when you speak and don’t care. You must make sure that your eyes are connected with the eyes of your child every time you speak to him, in this way you will both be paying mutual attention in the communicative interaction.
- Explain things angry. Even if you’re having a bad day, take a deep breath and don’t speak angry or frustrated to your child. They don’t deserve to be talked to like that in any way and under any circumstances. To avoid such an unpleasant scenario you will have to address the problems when you are calm and collected, only in this way will you be able to talk about different solutions in a thoughtful and pleasant way.
- Don’t ask specific questions. If you ask a child too open questions , the answers will be vague. Therefore, it is better to ask more specific questions so that your child is motivated to give you much more detailed answers.
- Giving too long talks. Keep things in your conversations simple and short. Especially when you talk to younger children. They do not need too long explanations because they will not understand it, it is better to be simple and concrete.
- Do not bend over to his height when you speak to him. If you talk to your young children without bending down to their height, there will be a huge physical imbalance that is intimidating, especially if you are upset or angry with them. Get down to his level and talk to him calmly and impartially, even if you are not satisfied with something he did and should discipline him.
- Be confrontational. Children are much more likely to listen and be receptive if they are discussing an issue or problem with a “let’s find out together” approach and tone rather than in an aggressive or threatening way.
- Criticize or insult. Keep positive language. If you show anger or insult your child, they won’t want to share anything with you next time, whether it’s a problem or a good thing. Remember that it is important that you express your opinion in a respectful way, even if you do not agree with what your child says.
- Yelling or losing your cool. You should set an example and keep your emotions in check at all times, especially before talking to your child. If you are angry about something, you will need to calm down completely before having a conversation with your child. Yelling is not only disrespectful and teaches your child that aggression is okay, but it loses its effectiveness over time.
- Do not allow children to explain or finish what they want to say. Would you like someone to interrupt you when you try to explain something or express your opinion? Probably not, so it is necessary that you maintain that same education with your child and that you teach him that being a good listener is also important. Give him the time he needs to explain what he thinks or what he feels. This is a great investment so that when he is a teenager and older he knows that he can count on you to explain anything he needs to you.
- Don’t thank your child for sharing the information. It is important that children feel that opening up is a good thing. Remember to thank them for talking to you about something, especially if it was difficult for them to discuss it.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.