What to do if you are a new mom and you are stressed

There is nothing in life that can prepare you to be a new mom … in fact, it is your own experience that will give you the signals to do the best you can at all times. Even if your friends and family who are already parents try to explain the things of motherhood or fatherhood to you, in reality, it is something that you will only understand when you experience it for yourself. It is normal that if you are a new mom you feel stressed and even feel fear.

You need to take care of yourself, especially during the first few weeks. As a new mother, you need to focus on your baby, but also on yourself. Over time you will realize that everything that seemed uphill, becomes easier.

LIMIT VISITS

Childbirth is a distressing experience and you require time to recover both physically and emotionally. It is a difficult process and at the same time, you have to adjust to your new life as a mom and take care of your newborn. Although it may seem rude to say no to people who want to meet the baby, if this is what you need now, it is what you should do.

You need time to connect with yourself and with your baby. So don’t worry if you tell people you’d rather wait and not visit until you feel ready.

IF THEY VISIT YOU, LET THEM HELP YOU

Typically, people ask you if you need something. If you really need it, don’t be afraid to ask for help while you are taking care of your newborn’s basic needs. Your loved ones really want to help and if they tell you it is because they want to feel useful by your side. So don’t worry if you tell them to do the dishes after dinner or if you tell them to take care of your baby while you shower. For them it is a very light effort and for you that break of a few minutes can mean a lot.

SIMPLIFIED ROUTINES

Before having your baby, you probably had a different routine to go out, now with your baby everything has changed and your baby is the most important thing. To avoid stress, think about which part of the routine is most important. If, for example, you want to always be well-groomed and made-up, prioritize this in your routine and then get along with the others.

Even if you are a mother, you are still a person and a woman, if you need 10 minutes to get ready, put on makeup or just to take deep breaths and calm your mind, you must do it!

FIND YOUR OWN TRIBE

If you ask any eternal mother what was most important to them in raising their children, they will all say the same thing: support. Some will be thankful for having it and others will regret not having had the good fortune to have support in raising their children.

Family and friends can be your support, but you can also search for mom tribes in closed Facebook groups so you can confidently support other moms. You can also meet them in person if you get along with some of them.

PUT CLEANLINESS ASIDE

While you don’t want anything to attract insects or rodents, many mothers emphasize that their home, once a perfect home, is now full of baby things. Do not worry so much about the disorder, when you have a baby at home it is the most normal thing in the world.

DON’T FEEL BAD IF YOU CAN’T EXERCISE

You have to recover first so forget the exercise for at least a few weeks. When this time passes if you do not feel like exercising because you are tired of working at home, working outside the home and taking care of your baby, do not feel guilty either. While it is true that exercise is recommended, if you do not do it for a while, nothing will happen to you. Remember that the body of a woman who has given birth takes more than a year to recover, and your mind just .. .