If you are a permissive parent, this is what you should do!
If you have a permissive parenting style, now is the time for you to change it … for your sake and that of your children!
Permissive parents are those who inadvertently allow their children to do whatever they want and also overprotect them too much. They allow them to do what they want and if they do something that is not right they do not make them see responsibility for their actions through the educational consequences.
When a father is permissive he can pass the fine line between parenting and friendship and they can appear to be more friends than parents. This is really dangerous because it does not help children to grow and evolve as successful people, rather it prevents them from evolving as they should.
Permissive parents tend to avoid conflict and that is why they prefer to excuse themselves by saying things like that children do what they do because they are children and that they should not be given greater importance. In reality, children need the example of their parents, to see in them a good authority that guides them, organizes them and structures their day so that in this way, they can learn skills necessary for daily life both in present life and in life. in the afterlife.
If you have realized that you are a permissive parent and you do not want your children to suffer the negative consequences of your upbringing, then the time has come for you to do your part and, above all, change that permissive mentality in order to improve parenting. towards your children. Your children will learn to take greater responsibility for their actions, to be empathetic people, you will be able to respect their wishes and interests through positive discipline but at the same time they will be able to self-regulate their behavior efficiently. Something essential for your future life.
DON’T GO AHEAD WITH PERMISSIVE PARENTING FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN !?
If you have noticed that your children are less and less heed to social norms, are more self-centered, or are beginning to have a despotic attitude, it may be that permissive parenting is behind all that. Although you should not put your hands on your head because you can reverse mistakes by having an action plan.
You just have to keep in mind that the more time you have spent raising your children in a permissive way, the more difficult it will be to change those bad habits both in you and in your children … But it is not impossible and with a calm and persistent attitude you can achieve it. You need to find ways that you can develop some more authoritative parenting habits . This can be difficult at times, because it often means becoming more strict, enforcing the rules, and being able to cope with the discomfort your child is feeling at certain times.
STRATEGIES FOR NOT FOLLOWING PERMISSIVE PARENTING
Some strategies you can consider to end permissive parenting include the following:
- Develop a list of ground rules at home. In this way your children will know how they should behave, how they should do things and above all, they have to know and understand what your expectations are towards them and what you expect them to do at any given moment.
- Your kids need to understand that it’s not worth breaking the rules . Rules are useless if there are no consequences when they are not followed. Waiting times or loss of privileges are logical consequences for breaking the rules and learning what not to cross.
- Be consistent with the rules. This is the most difficult rule for permissive parents to follow: be persistent and firm with the rules. But it is important that they are and that they know that even if they are, they can still love their children the same or even more, because they are educating them correctly for their good in the short and long term. You can be firm and continue to show respect and love for your children. Providing appropriate comments and explanations making sure the child knows that you understand him and that you are thinking of his benefit all the time.
- Reward good behavior. Just as there are consequences for bad behavior, there must also be consequences for good behavior, that is, rewards. Allow special privileges when they show good deeds and abide by the rules.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.