Adults and teenagers seem to disagree on many things, such as leisure. However, we can spend time together choosing a suitable plan for them.
As you know, adolescence is a stage of life where boys are subjected to a real hormonal upheaval . They are maturing both physically and psychologically. It is a difficult period to cope with because although they seek greater freedom of leisure and autonomy, adults (especially mothers) do not take them seriously because they still see them as children. At this stage they will ask you for more time to be with friends, go out and have fun. However, even if they do not recognize it, the unconditional support of their parents will be vital for a good personal development and although they do not seem very convinced when you propose family plans, they are actually going to be excited to spend a day with their parents. Of course, you have to know how and when to raise it.
Then we leave you with the odd interesting plan so that both fathers, mothers and children have an unforgettable day. It must be said that your children would have a much better time if they went with their friends instead of with you, but in the face of that nothing can be done, it is the law of life. However, that does not mean that they are going to have a bad time, far from it. You must have a little patience if you notice him a little reluctant at first.
1. DISCOVER THEIR TASTES AND PROPOSE A PLAN RELATED TO THAT
First of all you have to know your son, what are his hobbies? What interests do you have? The best way to get their attention is to be interested in their tastes and make them understand that you want to learn more about the subject . For example, if your child likes to skate or ride a bike, you can propose an afternoon on wheels. To sweeten the end you can invite him to have an ice cream while you rest.
If your child understands technology, you can ask him to advise you and give you his opinion on an item that you have been wanting to buy for a long time, you can even take it with you shopping and look at different models together. Or if he likes fashion, you can ask him for advice on a garment that you need and that you have been wanting to buy for a long time. Teens love to feel valued and that you take their opinion into account, and who doesn’t !?
On the other hand, your children may not have a specific hobby other than hanging out with friends, try to discover one together. A good idea is to join a new sport for both of you, for example, a martial art.
2. GO TO AN AMUSEMENT PARK
Now that the good weather is beginning, going to an amusement park is a very attractive plan. Most of the people who go to theme parks do so in the summer , that’s why the lines in July and August get endless and you don’t quite enjoy the experience. Unfortunately this is the case for a simple reason: it is when most people have vacations. If you are interested, do not wait until June and try to go at Easter , when there is still not much demand, you may not be able to enjoy the water attractions yet but it will be worth it even if only for the rest. If you can manage to go one day during the week you will succeed.
Try to balance vacation periods. On the contrary, perhaps it would be worth trying to change shifts or work more other days to be able to free one that we choose for this specific plan. On the other hand, after the evaluation of the third term (when the students are not going to give any new subject) it is a good idea to allow them not to go to class and take advantage of it to go . They will not refuse to miss class to go to an amusement park, apart from the fact that once the final exams are passed in most schools, they do not usually take advantage of those days for anything in particular other than leisure, much less to advance the syllabus.
3. ENJOY A MUSICAL OR A SHOW
In adolescents, theater as a form of leisure is not as well valued as by adults, however a musical or a magic show will appeal to the whole family. It is not a cheap plan so not everyone can afford it. If you finally opt for this plan, remember that it has to be a work or something that they will like. On the other hand, an easier option is to take a night out to the movies . How about going out to dinner and watching the last session of the action movie you’ve been wanting to see for so long?
4. ESCAPE GAMES
This plan is ideal to do as a family because to start you need groups of 2 or more people and it is an activity in which you need collaboration and be in touch at all times to be victorious . Escape games are spaces (usually houses or flats) where a group of people has the objective of escaping from a room (or a house) by solving puzzles and logic, in them they have to investigate the different rooms by what’s going on and finding clues to help us escape. It reinforces family ties because to escape you have to work as a team and spend time together. In addition, it is not usually very expensive because it is paid in groups, usually around 40-50 euros for each group of 5 or 6 people. This form of leisure is original, fun and does not usually last long, so it is perfectly compatible with other plans. Teens will no longer have excuses.
5. FOR RAINY AFTERNOONS
Why not stay home? Not every day will be good, time cannot be an excuse for not spending time together. Also, not all parents can afford to go to the theater or spend the day out. Here are some activities to do indoors:
– Choose a movie between the two of you, prepare popcorn or whatever you like the most and enjoy a couple of hours commenting on the movie .
– Play with your son / daughter the console , ask him to teach you how to play and play a couple of games, logically you are not going to win but you will have a good time.
– Spend time together cooking . Ask him to choose a dessert that he wants to try, find the recipe together and cook it, you can even take advantage of it for the movie you wanted to see!
Adolescents are very elusive from their fathers and mothers, so you will have to put an effort into it if you want to spend time together. Let him know well in advance of the day the plan is to be made so that he is not caught off guard. It is recommended that you choose a Sunday or Friday, in order to leave Saturday for them, which is when teenagers tend to stay among them.
On the other hand, it is important that parents never force their children to participate in the plans , ask them first and ask their opinion, since they are the protagonists of the afternoon and it is them who must be convinced to want to repeat .
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.