Are you ready to be a householder?
Some parents also want to take care of the children and the home, but do you know what it takes to do so?
At present there is still the ingrained thought that it is the woman who has to stay at home to take care of the children and the family. It seems that the most widespread thought is that it is the woman who must leave her professional career and that the man is the one who has to be active at work when they have children. But this doesn’t have to be this way by any means! A man can also stay at home to care for the children and the home if circumstances allow it and it is the man’s desire to do so and the woman also agrees to this happening.
More and more parents want to stay at home to take care of their children and the home. It is not something that should be taken lightly, it is an important decision and you must be prepared for it since being in charge of the children and the home is not something easy and requires a lot of work and effort . As many as 4 out of 10 parents would stay home if their families could be financially well off, but what is their real motivation?
Staying home is not waking up at any time or having the freedom to do whatever you want throughout the day. Children dictate the schedule and a home does not take care of itself. If you are thinking of being a homemaker, then there are some things to consider before making the decision.
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A JOB TRANSITION
You will go from a job to domestic chaos. You will have limited interaction with other adults and will need to be available to your family 24 hours a day. Instead of working 8 hours a day, you will have to collect toys, prepare the daily family menu and carry out all the household chores.
The advantages of course, are not paid with money. .. which is enjoying your children every day and watching them grow. The days will have little rest. There is no one to whom you give work at home, because only you will be with all the responsibilities that come with having a home with children. Everything will depend on you.
Although this may be tempting, you should think about what really satisfies you the most. If you want to be productive at home, or at home.
DOES YOUR FAMILY SUPPORT YOU?
It is not an easy decision, especially on an economic level because many adjustments will have to be made. Staying at home to care for the children and the home is unpaid even if it tires more than going to work 8 hours a day. Perhaps your partner or your children have doubts about that thought you have and you should talk with your partner about financial aspects and your new tasks. If you do not have the support of your partner, then there is no point in going ahead with this choice.
If you stay at home to care for your children and your home, it has to be above all, because the circumstances require it and it is the best decision for the common good of the family. It’s not about you, it’s about everyone. Does your partner agree to be the breadwinner of the family? Will you be able to carry out the different roles in parenting? Will you be able to resolve the conflicts that you may have on a daily basis? Are you able to do all the housework correctly?
CAN YOU AFFORD IT?
All people work for a reason: money is needed to survive in our current society. A family must evaluate its financial situation and determine if the loss of additional income is acceptable and if the remaining salary will be sufficient to keep the home afloat. Even if the answer is yes, it will be important to adjust to living on a single income. This could be the first time the family has had to deal with this and it needs to be dealt with smoothly. Money is one of the main stressors in families .
In addition to being able to do it economically, it is also necessary to know if you are mentally prepared. A stay-at-home parent will feel tired and lonely many times. You will have to deal with stereotypes that in many cases are negative. These are some potential challenges and you should be ready to tackle them if that is really what you want. Remember that staying home is doing everything from shopping, preparing and making food, cleaning the house, babysitting while you do the rest, managing the home, or taking the kids to after-school classes. Although if you really want to do it, the rewards are endless.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.