Children are not born with a good programmed self-esteem, discover how to promote it with this emotional work.
Emotions are fundamental in the lives of children, that is why it is so important to start working on them from the time they are small. The emotions and understanding them is essential so that they are formed with a strong personality and that they grow in empathy towards others and also so that they learn to be assertive.
In addition, children who understand emotions will grow up with a much stronger and more balanced self-esteem because they will know what they feel, why they feel it, and what to do to feel better at certain times. If you want to boost your children’s self-esteem with emotional work, don’t miss these tips.
Encourage the game and their vocations
It is important to instill the sense and desire to learn in children since this generates good skills and confidence in their abilities and also, they keep their feet on the ground. That is why it is important that through play the search for what they like and their passions is encouraged in children. This will help them to have a greater love of learning and they will also feel free to explore freely.
Many discoveries in our world were made by chance, so let your child explore their abilities so they know what they like, and have fun with it! You will discover his talent if you watch him and he will feel good doing what he does.
ENCOURAGE HIM TO EXPRESS HIMSELF
Children must learn to express themselves, to be open and respectful in possible disagreements. Assertiveness is important and they have to learn to share their choices and their emotions without hurting other people. Sharing and challenging the opinions of each member helps our children understand that more than one opinion has a right to exist in our world, and that there is never a clear solution to the sophistication of life.
In addition, it is important to show respect for the opinion of others so that they learn to be respectful of others as well. For your children to learn to be assertive, you must first be assertive yourself.
TEACH THEM TO RELATE TO THEIR EMOTIONS
When your child tries to tell you something, stop and listen to what he has to say, even if you don’t understand all his words. They need to know that their thoughts and feelings matter. Help them to recognize and feel safe with their emotions, you can say phrases like: ‘It seems that you are sad because you have to say goodbye to your friend, but tomorrow you will see him at school’. You value his emotion and help him understand that there is a solution to make him feel better.
Doing this helps them recognize emotions such as sadness, frustration, anger, and realizes that you are accepting their emotions without judging them. You show him that you validate his emotions and that you value everything he has to say to you.
Don’t be afraid to express negative emotions to them
From time to time, your child may get frustrated that he can’t do things his friends can do, like paint or play soccer. You can validate his feelings and make him understand that you know how he feels and that to get better he just has to practice more. At the same time, you can remind him that he is good at other things such as putting together puzzles and maybe other children are not so good.
This can help your child learn that we all have unique strengths and limitations, that there are other values worth acknowledging, and that they don’t have to be perfect to feel good about themselves.
DO NOT COMPARE HIM WITH OTHERS
Comparisons are obnoxious and should be avoided at all costs. Comparisons only make children feel bad about themselves for some, it can even make them feel great emotional pain .
Even positive comparisons can be detrimental because they can cause you to have a distorted idea of reality without taking into account your flaws and strengths. Children must be appreciated as unique people.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.