It is necessary for your child to learn resilience, and it is even more important if he is the victim of bullying or bullying.
There are some children who seem residents almost naturally, but in reality this ability or skill can be learned. Children (and adults) can learn emotional resilience to adapt, control, and overcome difficult situations they face in life. Resident children will also be able to overcome challenges even when they feel most vulnerable, such as when they are bullied by others.
It is necessary to remember that being resistant does not mean that your children do not experience difficulties or heartaches in their life. The feelings that make them feel hurt will continue to appear, emotional pain and sadness are common feelings when children are bullied by others. What really matters is how those feelings are treated.
When children are resistant they face bullying more effectively than those who do not have resilience as skills worked on within. There are a few ways you can teach your children to be more resilient to bullying. That’s how.
ACCEPTED AT HOME
Children should feel accepted at home for who they are and who they are. In this way they will be better able to deal with the stress and adversity of bullying. No matter how different your children are from you, they need to know that you believe in them and that you like them just the way they are.
Also, when children feel accepted in their home, they will have a sense of belonging that will make them feel empowered in their lives, have support at home, and the bullying will be less debilitating for them.
NURTURE GOOD SELF-ESTEEM
Teach your children to see the value of what they have and what they are capable of offering to the world. In addition, you have to help them to be able to see themselves in a positive way, especially in the most difficult moments.
They must understand that bullying is not a reflection of who they are, it is a reflection of the emotional or mental problem that the person who is bullying has. Bullies make the wrong decisions but it really has nothing to do with them.
ENHANCE POSITIVE THINKING
It is important that your children learn to find the positive things in life. Don’t let the most banal or negative things in everyday life influence her happiness or smile. Provide opportunities for your children to relax and have fun with no schedules or commitments to worry about.
You can also be a good example for joy in the little things by promoting positive thinking every day. Remember that positive thinking does not exempt you from feeling negative emotions from time to time, but they will have a greater capacity to face adversity with greater success.
Children must learn to calm down when they feel they are breaking down emotionally or when they are feeling overly aggressive and angry. It is important that you teach your children to recognize and name their emotions and their feelings. Reactions have names too. Give them ideas of how to control these feelings in a positive way.
Problem solving skills are essential to learn in childhood. To do this, you must show children how to be flexible in their responses when something negative happens to them. If your child faces a problem, always think of possible solutions. Together, you can discuss the pros and cons of each option.
Then, let your child choose the best option that he considers acceptable to solve the problem that occurs. He needs to know that you trust his decisions so that he can solve problems without fear of failure . Because if it fails, it is evaluated, it is learned and other decisions are made.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.