Make your child trust his own abilities

If your child learns to trust his own abilities, then he will be able to have a powerful and indestructible self-esteem . Parents play a great role in the development of their children’s self-esteem, they can teach them the skills in the correct way so that children can begin to believe in themselves and in their real abilities. A self-esteem is easily damaged and it is necessary to be careful with this.

Parents can help their children develop positive feelings of self-worth by making their little ones able to trust their own abilities. Don’t know how to do it? Keep reading.

IT SHOULD FEEL SPECIAL AND APPRECIATED

For a child to better develop his skills and have hope of improvement, he needs at least one adult in his life to help him feel special and appreciated. That adult will not ignore the child’s problems, but will focus on their strengths.

You need to have special moments alone with your children . It can be while reading a story, going out to play or any other time that is just for the two of you. Let your child do what he likes to do . May you have the opportunity to relax and show the strengths you have.

PROBLEM SOLVING AND DECISION MAKING

Your child needs to learn problem-solving skills and critical thinking skills that allow him to make correct decisions . If your child is having problems with a friend, you can ask him to think of different ways to solve the situation and then choose the one that he thinks is the most correct for that particular case.

Don’t worry if your child can’t think of solutions right away, it’s normal. Help your child to think about possible solutions and try to get him to think more creatively through role-playing so that he can see and rehearse the steps to take in solving problems.

AVOID DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

Criticisms can be constructive if they are said correctly out of respect and affection, or destructive when they only have an accusatory tone. There are children who hear from their parents like, ‘Try harder.’ In reality, many children try hard and still have difficulties. Instead, you can say things like, ‘We need to find better strategies to help you learn.’ That way they will be more motivated to improve instead of feeling like your words are a dagger of hostility in their heart.

SHOW EMPATHY

Many well-meaning parents, out of their own frustration, have been heard to say things like, “Why won’t you listen to me?” or “Why don’t you use your brain?” If your child has difficulties learning, it is best to be empathetic and tell him that you know that he has difficulties but that it does not have to be a serious problem; then you can turn the difficulty into a problem to be solved and involve your child in thinking of possible solutions.

MAY YOU NEVER BE SHORT OF OPTIONS

This will also minimize power struggles. For example, ask your child if he would like to be reminded five or ten minutes before bed to get ready to go to bed and stop playing. These initial choices help lay the foundation for a sense of control over your life.

NEVER COMPARE

Never compare siblings or compare your children with other friends or children you know. It highlights their strengths, those of each one. Do not compare. This will only generate pain and frustration in your soul. Remember that your child is unique in the world and that is how you should see him; as a unique being with virtues and defects, both necessary to form his own being.