Why shouldn’t children be tagged?
Experts advise against using both positive and negative labels as both are harmful to children.
The parents often do not realize or are not aware of the error that often make when tagging their own children. The damage that it can cause in the child is unimaginable and with them their self-esteem and confidence are strongly undermined.
Experts on the subject advise against using both positive and negative labels since both end up damaging the good development of children. Then we will tell you why you should never use labels with your child .
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WHY YOU SHOULDN’T LABEL YOUR CHILD
Since we are little, parents make the great mistake of labeling their children, without taking into account at any time the emotional damage that is done to them. This damage not only occurs in the family environment but ends up transcending in the school environment or among friends themselves.
The so-called negative labels are put as a result of a child’s behavior that irritates the parents themselves. In this way, if the child finds it difficult to do his homework, the father labels him as clumsy without knowing that this adjective can gradually undermine his own confidence and self-esteem. Every time the child tries to do homework or school work, the label of clumsy will come to mind and he will not be able to perform these duties, causing him great frustration as well as reluctance.
On the contrary, positive labels are those that highlight some quality or ability of the child. Although it may seem the opposite, they are just as harmful as negative ones since the child acts in the way his father says in order not to disappoint others. In this way, if the father considers that his son is a responsible and mature person, the little one will have the pressure at all times to have to be responsible at all times and in this way not end up disappointing neither his father nor others . Everyone expects a lot from the child and anxiety begins to appear if the little one does not consider that he has done things as people expect due to the label imposed by his father.
LABELS ARE NOT GOOD
As we have already mentioned above, labels are not good at all since apart from undermining the child’s self – esteem , they end up being pigeonholed, something that is not desirable in anyone’s life.
In most cases, the tag means that the little one carries a great load on his back that is difficult to put down and can accompany him for life. Labels are bad for the child but also for the father since he will address his own child based on the imposed label without taking into account other qualities that he may have.
HOW TO AVOID LABELS IN CHILDREN
Avoiding labels is not an easy or simple matter since most families go to them on a regular basis. For this, the father must forget at all times and reinforce the behavior of the son even if he does not like said behavior.
In this case, if the child does not do his homework well, it is advisable to sit with him and try to help him do it. Once they are done, it is good to tell them that they have tried hard and will do much better next time. Another important element consists in avoiding affectionate appellations and flattery at all times and listening to the child himself so that he himself is the one who, according to his emotions, forges his own personality.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.