Teens and difficult people
We all have to deal with difficult people sooner or later, but teens need to learn how to deal with them.
In life, we all have to deal with people who are difficult and it is important to interact in the most effective way possible so that their possible toxicity does not affect you more than necessary. If you have ever dealt with difficult or toxic people , you will know that it is not a pleasant experience and that if you do not set limits in time, it can become a real problem in your life.
What happens to you does not matter so much because you know how to handle the situation, but if it happens to your teenager, you may worry more than necessary. You may come home saying your teacher hates you or is having trouble with a classmate. When this happens, they may refuse to go to class or play sports because of their relationships with these difficult people. You don’t know how to handle the situation and it makes you anxious.
As a father or mother, it is possible that when your child’s feelings are hurt, the first thing you want to do is talk to these people and ask for explanations or simply go into a war … But it is not necessary, nor ethical, nor will it help them you’re welcome to your child. You need to make your child understand that not all people fit together and that doesn’t really have to be a bad thing, and if you need to, you can always do things to improve the relationship.
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CONSIDER A FEW THINGS
Before getting nervous because your children’s feelings have been hurt, ask yourself the following question: Does your child have a tendency to feel some anxiety when he perceives rejection by other people even though this is not exactly the case? If so, don’t invalidate your child’s feelings by telling him he’s too sensitive. Instead, keep your child’s sensitivity in mind when teaching him to get along with the “difficult” adults in his life.
In life we all have to deal with people who are difficult and it is important to interact in the most effective way possible. The sooner we share these skills with our children, the better they will be now and in the future.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE: WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN
It won’t always be easy to get along with everyone
There will be people who like you more and those who like you less and vice versa. There will also be people who you like more and others who like you less. This is perfectly normal and you don’t have to seek to appeal to everyone either. Each one is as it is and is accepted or not accepted, but is always respected.
Observe peer interactions and spot difficult people
Too often we forget to teach children the importance of good observation skills. By observing their peers, they can learn what it takes to get along better with others. Learn to use this technique: If you find yourself in a situation with the personality type that is difficult, quickly stop and think about how a friend who is good with these types of personalities could handle the situation. Try your best and apply management techniques with difficult people and you will see how the relationship changes quickly.
Teach your children to focus not only on their feelings, but also on their behaviors
Children must know how their behavior directly impacts others. Perhaps there is something your child is doing that is helping to make the relationship stressful or strained. If you realize this, you can gently and lovingly point it out to your child. You will be doing him a great favor.
Be a good example to follow
As you well know, the example is essential in these types of situations and in all. Your children learn by your example and you cannot ask them to change something if you make it worse. Be their best teacher and learn techniques to be able to deal with people with difficult personalities. Your child will learn a lot by watching you.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.