How teens embarrass their parents
Sometimes teenagers embarrass their parents unintentionally or willingly … What can you do if this happens to you?
Teens can embarrass their parents without being fully aware that they are doing it. For this reason, it is so important to work on empathy with children from the time they are small, so that they learn to ‘put themselves in the shoes of others’. Only by feeling what others feel can they avoid embarrassing their parents and think before doing or saying things.
If this is not worked with children, when they are teenagers they could reveal your intimate secrets in public, tell you that you are not as cool as you get lost or point out your mistakes so that others also know them. If this happens to you, you will most likely want to hide under a dark cave where no one will find you for a long time.
THEY CAN EMBARRASS YOU
Teenagers can feel ashamed of their parents like when you dress in a certain way or kiss them in public. They may also feel embarrassed when they listen to sing or play sports that they think parents shouldn’t do.
But in addition to the fact that adolescents can feel ashamed of their parents, they can also embarrass them almost without realizing it by having specific behaviors.
REVEAL YOUR SECRETS
Most of your secrets may not be known to your children , but they can talk publicly about your behavior in an intimate or private moment. An example is telling you in public that you are calmer than you usually are or that you do not yell what you usually yell at home. In this sense, it will be publicly revealing which house you can lose your nerve should when.
Another example could be at a dinner with your friends at home. Imagine that your teenager tells you that the food you have prepared is really good and not as good as the prepared food that you usually make to them at noon due to lack of time. In this sense, they will be telling your guests that you have been cooking all afternoon but the day comes when you opt for easy and not so healthy food.
When this happens, you need to talk to your child in private to explain the need to maintain people’s privacy, and that by saying these kinds of things, he or she is disrespecting your dignity and respect .
TELLS YOU THAT YOU’RE NOT AS COOL AS YOU THINK
Perhaps you are happily at home singing because you feel happy that day, and your son comes to tell you that you sing badly and that he is spoiling the lyrics of the song. Or maybe you’re a parent who likes to go to the gym and play sports, that’s why you wear clothes that you think fit you … but your son is there to tell you that it looks bad on you.
Before your son told you anything, you felt good in the clothes you were wearing, but now, you might think twice about putting them on. Truth? Well no! If you feel good in a specific outfit, your child must accept that this is your style and that he or she must respect your choices and the way you dress.
THEY LIKE TO POINT OUT THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER A CHILD
In this sense, they may be right, you are an adult. But when you feel young it tries to make you feel that you are not so young. He reminds you of your age and tells you that you shouldn’t behave like this because you embarrass him. Do n’t let your child restrict your happiness. If you feel good like this, he must respect you!
HAS BAD MANNERS IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE
Your teenager may show bad manners in front of other people , speak disrespectfully to you, or even ignore you in front of their friends or other people. This is especially embarrassing when this type of behavior is not typical. A teenagers sometimes like pressing parents when there is an audience around because they know they are less likely to show your anger in public.
It is necessary that in these cases you work on assertiveness so that your children know what you expect of them at all times. Remember that the consequences before bad behaviors are your best friends.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.