Having a twin brother is having a friend from birth!
Twin brothers enjoy each other’s company as playmates and are true friends.
When you are told in pregnancy that you are going to have twins, it is likely that at first you will be in shock, although later during the 9 months of pregnancy you may get used to the idea to realize that it is a double blessing. One of the blessings of having a twin brother is that you have a “friend” from birth. There are many times when having a sibling of the same age is an advantage, not only for twins, but for their parents as well.
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THE ADVANTAGES
Twin brothers enjoy each other’s company as playmates. Since they are babies they sit next to each other and play together. It is a joy to see babies in this way since you can see their complicity since they are only a few weeks old. Two-year-olds, for example, who do not have twin siblings prefer individual play, but children who have twin siblings prefer interactive play and parallel play.
The parents of children who have twins, can find more complications for their children to entertain and play individually. Children will constantly demand parental attention and find it harder to have a moment to themselves. On the other hand, for parents who have twins this will not be so much a problem because they will stay busy for a longer time together. When they are babies it is double work, but as they grow, the respite will be very noticeable!
Children also realize how beneficial it is to have a twin brother of the same age, because it is comfortable to explore new situations, such as starting school, going to camp … they will never feel alone or excluded. They always have the presence of their twin brother / friend by their side.
DISADVANTAGES
But like everything in life, not everything is rosy and this can also have drawbacks. Having a constant life partner is not always ideal for all twins. Familiarity breeds contempt, after all, and like any relationship, boys and girls often needed a break from each other. Fighting between twins can be particularly intense, as many parents comment.
Sometimes it is more difficult for twins to develop external friendships. It can be difficult for them to establish individual friendships with other people, as most of the world perceives them as a bundle. It is true that there is some discrimination between twins, situations in which twins are excluded or overlooked instead of being recognized for their individual qualities.
WHAT PARENTS SHOULD DO
As parents of multiples, your job is to balance the benefits of “built-in friends” with the individual needs of each child. Recognize that each twin or triplet deserves individual time with parents. Encourage each child to develop their own outside friendships.
Don’t expect constant harmony when you’re together; rather, it creates space in the relationship of multiples by providing opportunities for hangouts with friends and individual activities. If you allow your children to enjoy a special relationship, but encourage them to develop as individuals, they will find a social balance that respects their bond and prevents it from becoming suffocating.
It is necessary that each of your children have their own space in order to feel like an individual person and with their own idiosyncrasies . In this way, they will not feel alone as part of a “package”, but in this way they will realize that although they have a twin (and even if it is identical), they are unique and individual in their life. Enhancing that individuality is necessary for all parents to do so , because in this way children will be able to develop more authentically.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.