Why is popularity in teens so important?
Adolescence is a difficult time for adolescents, but it is important to understand why popularity is so important to them.
The adolescence is not an easy stage of life. Being a teenager implies having the use of reason and beginning to be aware of the acts. Adolescents seek to find a place in society and popularity is necessary for this . Finding that gap is not easy since there are cases that for the simple fact of not doing the same thing that other adolescents do, popularity is zero.
The dream of adolescents is to be the most popular in school, and it is that being popular in adolescence means achieving success. All of them want to belong to a reference group for the rest of the adolescents to go from being unnoticed to being someone. This is not always good for adolescents as they generate in them an air of superiority that makes the rest devalue themselves for not being part of that “elite” .
POPULARITY, A GOAL IN ADOLESCENCE
Popularity has become too transcendent a concept for adolescents and has been assigned such a great value that it defines the direction of their lives and even how good or bad they can feel about themselves.
Currently, this popularity among adolescents is to feel someone important at school and in any social environment and to reduce and alleviate all those psychological and physical insecurities that they suffer. Feeling popular, they think they meet all the minimum needs and requirements to be popular. As we can see in the news and on a day-to-day basis, popularity is possessed by all those adolescents who tend to do everything that goes against the rules, such as smoking when under 18 years old, doing pyrolas in schools, being handsome, tall, slim etc.
Unfortunately, all this has led to extreme cases among adolescents for not complying or doing everything that implies to acquire that popularity. The obsession with being popular can sometimes go to dangerous extremes in which the adolescent’s social performance is transformed and can even lead to suicide. Therefore, to avoid this, it is necessary to give constant support to adolescents and allow this behavior to become something so harmful and dangerous.
GUIDELINES FOR GAINING POPULARITY IN ADOLESCENCE
1. Make friends by being yourself, not by creating an image that you are not.
2. Do not be pretentious, that is, do not show off your qualities that you do not have.
3. Pay no attention to those who hurt you
4. Dress and do your hair how you like and how you look better, not how the rest do.
5. Be confident.
6. Surround yourself with people with whom you find similarities and interests.
7. Be unique and spontaneous
ADOLESCENCE, A STAGE THAT WORRIES PARENTS
Adolescence is the stage that most worries parents . Having an adolescent child at home means that your child has reached a rebellious phase, where the only thing they are interested in is going out with their friends, not listening to anyone and less if that person is a figure of authority. To overcome this, the parents’ job is to talk to them, explain that you love them so that they feel supported and valued since all this will help them increase their self-esteem and self-confidence.
Friendships in adolescence are essential, therefore, parents have the obligation to recommend their children what is the right environment for their children and what it means to have a positive environment since those friends should value him for what he is and not for whatever you have. In short, popularity popularity is not measured by the number of friends you have but by the quality of them.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.