This is how you feel when your kids break your rules

When your children break the rules you can feel many different emotions … do you feel identified

When children break the rules that you impose in your home, it is more than likely that you feel insulted, humiliated and worse, that you believe that the upbringing in which you have been trying for so many years … has not been worth anything or at least it is not there. giving the results you thought it would be. The reality is totally different from how you dreamed, your children … they just seem to act on their own.

YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG

You feel that you are a zero to the left in the lives of your children, and in their difficult adolescence there are days that you would like to throw in the towel of motherhood / fatherhood … because you have all your energies exhausted , because you have no reserves left, because you prefer to go to bed and cry, wondering what you have done wrong.

You have done nothing wrong. Quite the opposite. It is natural for children to disobey certain rules, especially those that violate their autonomy . Disobedience can also be a response to emotional disorders that a child has not had a chance to resolve. Whatever the cause, it is natural to experience a variety of emotions , from frustration to sadness and beyond, in response to your child’s disobedience.

HOW YOU FEEL

In order to start solving this problem, you need to understand how you feel. Name your emotions and in this way, you can begin to change your perspective and seek solutions so that your children begin to be more obedient to the rules of the home.

DISRESPECT

If your child repeatedly breaks house rules , such as refusing to clean or using bad language at home, you may think they have little respect for you . You may get the impression that when you speak, your child is intentionally ignoring you. This can present serious breakdowns in family communication and have a negative impact on your relationship at home. You can gain more respect by speaking openly with your child, emphasizing how you feel about being ignored, and addressing any obstacles to following the house rules.

INEFFECTIVE PARENTING

When your child is disobedient, you may think that your parenting is ineffective. Parents sometimes struggle with consistency in discipline and pay as their children get older. Even if children did not receive proper discipline during early and middle childhood, parents can learn to be more consistent . In addition, children can learn that they have to obey the rules or suffer the consequences.

ANGER

Naturally, anger is one of the most immediate emotions you can experience when your child is disobedient. This anger can be healthy and encourage you to confront your child and find solutions to his disrespect. However, it can also be unhealthy, building up until it becomes explosive . Instead of allowing this to happen, accept this anger and allow it to motivate you to find helpful techniques that will teach your child to be more obedient.

WORRY

If your child’s disobedience is constant and relentless, he may have serious concerns. Some children’s behavior is so extreme that parents seek professional help to help them identify the causes and initiate effective treatment. An indication that it may be time to seek help is when your child’s disobedience is combined with aggression and destructiveness.

As you can see, when children disobey it can be highly destructive for the whole family. In this sense it is necessary. Seek solutions as soon as possible and do not allow the situation to become too unstable. Remember that you are the role model for your children.

Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, MD1
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Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.

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