When a family is expecting a baby, two questions usually get the most attention: Is it a boy or a girl? How is it going to be called? Grandparents are usually okay with both sexes, although they may have a preference that they will not always show out of respect. On the question of names, however, they often have definite opinions. It is necessary to keep in mind that it is only an opinion and that it should not break a family .
If you are a grandparent and you do not like the name that has been decided for your grandchild, you need to know how to react since that name is not decided by you, but by the parents. Follow these tips if you don’t like …
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HEAR IT FOR THE FIRST TIME
When you are first told what your grandchild’s name will be, show a calm demeanor. You don’t come up with the name before it’s officially decided because parents can change their minds. They may give you a name that you don’t like just for playing a joke, but there is also no need to feign enthusiasm for a name you don’t like, because they might notice it and it is counterproductive.
If your relatives insist on knowing if you like it, then you can say phrases like: “I’m sure I will like it as much as I will love my grandson.” In the end, it will be true because you will love your grandson so much that you will get used to him being called like that and you will associate that name with the love you feel for him.
RESPECT THE LIMITS
It is important that you respect the limits because this is a skill that all grandparents need. The choice of the name is for your adult child, you can give your opinion if they ask for it but little else. Don’t give the baby nicknames either just because you don’t like the name.
You must respect the wishes of the parents because they are the ones who have the last word in the decision of the baby’s name, and ultimately in everything that concerns their child
A STAINED NAME
You may not like that name due to some personal experience that has tainted that name. But you have to know that as you build the wonderful relationship with your grandson you will realize that the bad association of that name will disappear forever.
You may not like the name for other reasons such as that it is too common, too unusual, that it is difficult to pronounce or that it is a name that is not gender specific and you do not like that very much.
Regardless of why you don’t like your grandson’s name, you can’t question the parents’ decision, although you can coolly suggest certain names in case the parents like them . Similarly, it is good to know that the behavior and not the name ultimately determines the fate of each.
ANOTHER GRANDSON HAS THE SAME NAME
Perhaps that same name is owned by another of your grandchildren and perhaps that is why you prefer that the parents choose another name. Or maybe you prefer that your grandchild have your name because you like that tradition, but it may not be the best decision for parents.
Most modern families have rejected traditional naming patterns in favor of giving their children unique names. As always, parents have the right to do their bidding on this. Many times the rejection of a grandparent’s name does not amount to a rejection of the grandparent. Parents may not like the way their name looks or sounds and may have been rejected for that reason rather than a more personal one. Conversely, if they choose to honor someone else by choosing their name, they may just like the name as well.