3 things you should not say to someone suffering from infertility
Do you know someone who is suffering from infertility? So don’t tell them these 3 things because you could do emotional damage!
You may have ever had that awkward moment of sharing confidential information with a friend and they would respond with something that hurts. Most of us have also been on the other side of this: a friend trusts us and we respond incorrectly. When we look at the tight polite smile of our friend, we shrug our shoulders, and we think ‘earth swallow me’.
The most insensitive comments are not meant to be hurtful. They are formulated from ignorance or from a strong desire to say something that will defuse a tense moment … Then you will want to solve the problem with your friend, heal their pain or try to forget that failed situation. Instead, you can inadvertently make things worse. If you have a friend or relative with infertility, you better avoid saying these things … And if you have ever said any of these things, then it is time to apologize to your friend , because they probably felt hurt. Your moment.
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YOU CAN ALWAYS OPT FOR IN VITRO FERTILIZATION (IVF)
IVF is often seen as a panacea for infertility. Can’t get pregnant? You go to a clinic! But in reality this is not so simple. First of all, IVF is a very expensive treatment and not everyone has the money to do it. In addition, sometimes not only one treatment is needed, but more than one to find success, so the price shoots up into thousands and thousands of euros.
Also, IVF is not a panacea to infertility … Even if you have a lot of money, these treatments may not be successful. For women under 35, there is only a 39.6% success rate per cycle, although this can also vary depending on the cause of infertility. The IVF success rate for women between the ages of 42 and 43 drops to a whopping 11.5% per cycle.
As if that were not enough, it is an incisive and emotionally intense treatment. It can also have risks. This treatment is not for everyone.
YOU CAN ADOPT!
Adoption can be a wonderful option for some couples, but it is not a decision to be made lightly. Suggesting adoption in a frivolous way ignores the financial and emotional costs of adoption. Also, adoption is not always possible
There is an application and approval process to adopt a child. Not everyone who wants to adopt will pass the screening process. (By the way, not passing the selection process does not mean that the person is not a good parent … it is much more complicated than this and has more to do with bureaucracy and business). As if that were not enough, adoption does not take away the pain of not being able to have a biological child. Offering the option as a convenience is usually not a good option.
Adoption does not replace having biological children, it is another way to build a family.
IT IS BETTER NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN!
Infertile couples are not clueless. Who hasn’t sat in a restaurant next to a noisy and messy family? Or endured a long plane ride with a screaming baby? They know that babies cry and vomit. They know that children are messy and loud. Also that their lives would change drastically when they have children …
But please, if you have children, do not minimize their feeling of loss by making your blessing sound like a curse … Because you know perfectly well that your children are the most wonderful thing in your life and you would not change them for anything in this world.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.