Being parents: 9 truths about having children
Although it is true that being a father is wonderful, the truths of being one hide good things and others that are not so.
Most parents, when they consider being one or find out that they are going to have children, begin to inform themselves about what the new stage will be like in which they are going to enter, both with their partner and individually. But as in all areas, myths have arisen about what it really is to be a parent.
From PregDream we leave you a compilation of various curiosities and truths that parents often do not know about having children . Keep in mind that parenthood is something very personal, so the experience is individual and we rely on statistics and the opinion of the majority of parents to make this list.
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THESE ARE THE 9 TRUTHS ABOUT HAVING CHILDREN THAT YOU WERE NEVER TOLD
1. Pregnancy is a difficult time
Many people and specialists say: ” Enjoy your pregnancy , it is a precious moment ” ” Take advantage of this time, it is so beautiful. ” ” Pregnancy does not hurt, it is pleasant ”. And I do not deny them reason, it is a unique moment, but not everything that entails is good. It should be borne in mind that during pregnancy you feel as if you were sick, with the urge to vomit, headaches, difficulty falling asleep, chest pains, dizziness, heartburn, sudden changes in mood, constipation , you gain weight and feel tired, etc.
2. You will never sleep the same way again
One of the truths that parents do not take into account is that after having their first child it will be impossible for them to sleep the same again, they will always be watching if their child cries, if he is okay, if something happens to him, for if you are resting properly, waking up and staying awake many nights, hearing how it moves, etc. Concern that can be described as parental love.
3. Parents are necessary for the child during the first days
On many occasions it is believed that the father figure is not necessary for the child when he is born, since it is the mother who breastfeeds him, takes care of him, etc. But this is an erroneous thought, the figure of the father is as important as that of the mother, since it is a support for her in the care of the child, a source of affection for her child, contact with a person with the that will maintain a bond of affection throughout his life, stability and security, etc. The importance of being parents is not a question of sex, but of what you offer the child.
4. You will love your children from the first moment
On many occasions we have all heard how people say: ” The first days you will not love him very much ” ” At first you may consider having made a mistake ”. But this fact is not that you do not love your son, of course you love him, from the first moment, even before you meet him; But the first days are exhausting, your whole life changes and you have to adjust to this new situation.
5. You will control even the smallest of details
As in the aspect of the dream, the concern and love for your child will make you read each and every one of the ingredients that make up the food that you offer to your children, you will learn the product leaflets by heart, you will look for information and tips to cover any situation, you will carefully review their poop, the amount of food you offer, its nutritional value, etc.
6. You will have to watch the same movies a thousand times
Nobody tells you, but being parents means having to watch the same movie over and over again, even learning it by heart, the images, the dialogues, etc; and all to see that smile that your son puts on when he sits on the couch to see it. And not just movies, you will have to sit and read the same story day after day, listen to the same songs, the same television series, etc.
7. You will feel fear for your children
Many parents are not aware, but after having your first child you will feel fear, because something could happen to him, in case he gets sick, in case you are making mistakes or you are not being a good father, in case you hurt him, if you do not offer him or meet all their needs. You will be afraid of leaving him alone, that he falls, etc. It is a very common thought and within what is normal since it is your child, but we must not let that fear take over and let the child develop by himself, achieve autonomy, let him experiment and learn, etc.
8. You will discover what it is to really love
Another very important aspect of parenthood is that when you become parents you discover what true love is, a new level of it. You will know the strongest love, more than the one you can feel for yourself, for your parents or for your partner. The love for a child is infinite and incalculable. Nobody says it because it is something that cannot be described in words, and you will only be able to understand what I am talking about when it happens to you and you live it.
9. Sex is going to become a chore
When you have a child you have to focus on him, you will be aware of all his care and his well-being will be your center of attention; Leaving in this way, your needs or your tastes aside, including sex. You will stop doing it so often, either because you do not have time or because the little you have you prefer to use to rest.
In short, having a child changes your life, you discover new facets of yourself that you did not know, you continually improve yourself and seek to be a better person, you stop being the center of attention so that the child occupies that space. You realize how important you are to a person, how essential you can be.
It should be noted that as I have said before, not all parents experience these aspects, each parenthood is a world and each person lives it in their own way, from their point of view and from their own experience.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.