3 causes that cause a marital divorce
There are some causes that can cause a marital divorce, and they are neither infidelity nor abuse in the couple, what is it then?
Not all divorces occur because of infidelity or emotional or physical abuse, there are other causes that must also be taken into account. What can happen so that a couple who married happily now only think that they will be better divorced? Even if that means that the children have a bad time this transition as well. There are those who are unable to recognize when their marriage started to really go wrong … so much so that it has completely derailed.
Index
LAZINESS
People don’t want to work on marriage. There is a mistaken belief that marriage will make us happy and that nothing has to be done to maintain that happiness. As if the marriage were a separate entity, something outside of us that will survive and prosper with little input from the members of it … mistake!
There are those who enter a marriage without really knowing what it means … when this happens they can be disillusioned when realizing the reality. They begin to look outside of themselves to define the problems in the marriage instead of looking at the situation and asking, “What can I do to make things better?”
Guilt seems to be the path of least resistance and they prefer to blame the other. It is easier to blame a partner or marriage in general than to take responsibility for how they live within their marriage and the possible changes they must make in order for the marriage to flourish. People are too lazy to do a self-exploration, learn better relationship skills, and put the necessary personal effort into a marriage. Simply put, marriage takes a lot of work, and if you’re not committed to hard work, a marriage won’t last.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION SKILLS
This is simple, people who do not know how to talk to each other will not know how to listen to the other either. The most important conversations people have are with their partner, yet they put very little effort into wisely expressing their feelings and listening openly to the other.
It is also possible to want to avoid a conversation to avoid the pain that can be generated from it. If you can’t communicate, you can’t solve the problems in the marriage. The easiest way to build trust in a marriage relationship is through honest and open communication skills . If talking and listening do not become a habit, there is no hope.
Communication involves talking about the bad things and coming together to develop an action plan to solve marital problems. Marital problems cannot be solved without the willingness to communicate. You’ll end up with unresolved issues, an unsatisfying marriage, and wonder if “that’s all there is” to marriage.
Lack of communication will cause your relationship to have an expiration date, it will also affect your children because you are not setting a good example for them. If you can’t communicate about the good and the bad in your marriage , there is no way to feel completely secure in it.
HIGH EXPECTATIONS
Expectations and laziness can go hand in hand when it comes to predicting whether a marriage will end in divorce . That woman who buys the expensive wedding dress probably has very high expectations of marriage too. Both men and women make a lot of assumptions when it comes to marriage and what to expect from it. These assumptions are based on many variables and problems arise when the outcome (marriage) does not meet the assumptions or expectations.
Marital expectations rarely align with the realities of what life is like in marriage. Divorce is not about infidelity or unhappiness. Divorce can and is avoided by those who are willing to work hard at it, who know how to communicate effectively, and those whose expectations are realistic.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.