How to deal with adult bullying in a family
If there is intimidation by a family member, it is necessary to stop it as soon as possible.
Stopping adult bullying in a family is a priority because it can affect the mental and physical health of the entire family . Unresolved conflicts can lead to threatening behavior and even violence. There are three different types of bullying behavior: physical, emotional, and verbal.
When bullying occurs it is defined as an “attempt at control by an insecure and inappropriate person, an exercise of power through the humiliation of the target.” Stopping an adult bully requires the cooperation of the victim. A victim needs to develop self-esteem to defend herself and say no … She needs strength to set limits and if they are not met, withdraw from the aggressor as soon as possible.
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Write down how bullying makes you feel . Being bullied often stirs up strong feelings of anger. Consciously exploring and dealing with these emotions is a vital step in dealing with bullying between adults within a family.
Bullying of adults in a family can be directed towards a partner , parents, children or a combination of people in the family. If the bullying has been directed at you, remember that this is not your fault and you should not blame yourself. Adults are responsible for how they choose to treat you. If the bullying is directed at children, examine the possible reasons behind this choice.
BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL, DESPITE EVERYTHING
Be a good role model of kindness and calm . By choosing not to respond to bullying in an angry way, you send the message that the person is not a threat to you. Often times, a stalker reacts in an angry way, as he regards other people as a threat to him.
You may also have experienced a lack of kindness and respect throughout your life. Showing respect for ideas, thoughts, and feelings promotes the development of greater self-esteem and self-concept. A person who intimidates other people lacks self-esteem; Being verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive is one way to deal with this lack of self-esteem.
TALK ABOUT THE SITUATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN
Discuss the situation with your children and allow them to express their thoughts and feelings about the situation. Emphasize that it is not their fault and talk about the importance of being calm and talking to each other. Invite your children to talk to you about it and make sure they feel protected and know that certain things should never be acceptable.
TALK AS A FAMILY ABOUT THE SITUATION
The lack of unity within the family is related to bullying. Research ways to have a family gathering where you listen to everyone. Make a formal plan in which you allow everyone to express their feelings and suggest different ways to deal with the situation. If the bullying has started recently, you can involve the bully. In some cases, it may be better to discuss strategies with other family members before involving the bully. Regardless of your decision, inform the harasser and invite him to the family reunion.
THINK OF OTHER THEORIES
Research other theories together about why this person bullies others. Find out about bullying and talk to your other family members about it. It is often easier to talk about the behavior of others and the ways that people in a story deal with bullying. This can help you find solutions. Look for books written from a stalker’s perspective . This can help you understand the reasons behind their behavior.
USE ASSERTIVE RESPONSES
A clear, calm voice, well-chosen words, and assertive body language defuse a situation. Practice looking people in the eye and standing with your feet apart. This helps you deal with a heated situation. Be aware of your own body language and role-play situations at home where you act and speak calmly. Teach your children to use assertive responses.
Seek professional help if you are concerned about the welfare of your children or your own . Assertive behavior alone may not have the desired effect if the bullying has already been going on for a long time.
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