How to improve your relationship after a miscarriage
A miscarriage is a hard blow for a couple, but it can also improve your relationship.
When you are looking to be a parent but a miscarriage occurs, no matter what week of gestation you are in, anger is the most normal thing to have. Nobody wants to lose an expected baby, it seems that nature becomes unfair. It is horrible news that no couple is prepared to endure, but when it happens, they have no choice but to accept.
When this happens, anger is a normal and natural feeling that can be had after a miscarriage. You must feel these emotions and accept all your feelings, do not avoid them, do not hide them either. You may wonder what you could have done differently so that it hadn’t happened … You are not to blame for anything. It is important that you do not blame yourself or others for having a miscarriage. Although it’s natural to want to blame, it will only make things worse in the long run. You must go through your own grieving process.
But, despite the heartbreaking news of losing the pregnancy , this can make your relationship go strong. If you want your relationship to get stronger after miscarriage instead of worse … then you better keep the following tips in mind.
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HEAL TOGETHER
Nobody heals in the same way and you will feel emotions differently and also at a different rate. If you need time for yourself, you must have it. If you choose to work overtime in your office to have your head elsewhere, you will have to. Do not want to hide your feelings, find a way to channel it.
When you are better, you should choose both the best time to re-admit him. But you will both have to agree on this, the wounds must be healed.
CRY AND DON’T HIDE YOUR TEARS
When you cry, you are emotionally transparent and not vulnerable at all. It is not bad to cry, in fact, it is necessary for the soul of any person and more, when they are suffering. In a couple relationship with which you want to start a family, this is even more important. You must feel safe with your partner to be able to cry freely.
If you cry, you are also expressing empathy towards your partner when you show your own emotions. Even if it’s not the way you would express an emotion.
TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR PARTNER
Talk about the feelings generated after the miscarriage . It is true that this is not easy, because it may be a difficult conversation to carry out, but it is important to do it. It is the best therapy, talking to the couple about what happened, if you don’t, you could get stuck.
If the words do not come out the first time, you can write the words that you want to say but that it costs you out of fear or anxiety.
TAKE A DEEP BREATH
If you find that you can’t cope, take a breath and count to 10. Even if you want the pain to stop, it won’t happen quickly. If you can, take a few days off from work or go for a weekend of disconnection alone or with your partner.
You need to give your body and mind time to recover. Even if this is impossible, try to have 10 minutes a day of deep breathing to calm your mind.
THAT YOU DO NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU
Perhaps you contain your emotions why your friends or family will say, if they do not understand how they are feeling or if they are not able to understand that you could be so bad. But do not care what others think, because your feelings are yours and nobody else’s.
You do not have to show anyone anything or demonstrate. Your feelings are yours and your decisions too. Stop thinking about what others might think of you or your partner. This fight is yours.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.
