Some reasons why children misbehave
Children can misbehave for different reasons, discover the cause to find the solution sooner.
Children in the vast majority of occasions use their behavior to show how they feel and what they think without even using words. They can communicate something through their behavior that they cannot express or verbalize in any other way. It is necessary to know what discipline strategies are best to use but it is also very important to know what underlying cause is touch is causing them to behave that way.
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DRAW ATTENTION
If you are on the phone, have a home visitor, or are simply busy, then your child may feel left out on your side. May have a tantrum or hit siblings to get attention, even in a negative way. Ignoring negative behavior and praising positive behavior is one of the best ways to deal with attention seeking behaviors.
COPY TO OTHERS
Children learn behavior by imitating others. Whether it’s a misbehaving classmate, something you’ve seen on television, or even the parents’ own behavior, kids will follow suit. You need to limit your children’s exposure to the aggressive behaviors of others.
It is necessary to be a role model of healthy behavior to teach children an appropriate way to behave in various situations.
THEY PUT THE LIMITS TO THE TEST
Life is established by rules and children sometimes test the limits to know how far they can go. They want to find out what the consequences will be when they break the rules. You need to set clear limits and have consistent awareness.
If kids think there is a slim chance they can get away with something, they are often tempted to give it a try. If you show them that they will receive a negative consequence every time they break a rule, they will begin to be more compliant.
THEY DON’T HAVE ENOUGH SKILLS
Sometimes behavior problems arise from a lack of skills. A child who lacks social skills may hit another child because he wants to play with a toy. A child who lacks problem-solving skills cannot clean his room because he is not sure what to do when his toys do not fit in the toy box.
When your child misbehaves, instead of just giving him a consequence, teach him what to do instead. Show him alternatives to bad behavior so he can learn from his mistakes .
THEY WANT INDEPENDENCE
As children learn to do more for themselves, they often want to show off their new skills. Tweens are also known for their attempts to be independent. They can become more argumentative and can behave disrespectfully at times.
Teens can become rebellious in an attempt to show adults that they can think for themselves. They may break the rules on purpose and may try to show adults that they cannot be forced to do things that they do not want to do.
In these cases, children need options so that they feel that they have some control, you can ask something like: ‘Do you prefer water without ice or with ice?’ Or maybe something like: ‘You decide when you do the housework, but as soon as you finish you can have 15 minutes to use your mobile, as long as you finish before 6:00 p.m.’ Feeling that they have the appropriate freedom according to their age, they will think that it is their choice to do things one way or another.
EMOTIONAL CONTROL DIFFICULTY
Sometimes children (as many adults do) have no idea what to do with their feelings. They can easily feel bad when they feel angry, and as a result, they can become aggressive. They can even act out when they’re feeling excited, stressed, or bored.
Children need to learn healthy ways to deal with feelings like sadness, disappointment, frustration, and anxiety . Teach children about feelings and show them healthy ways to manage their emotions to avoid misbehaving.
When children have better control over their emotions , they can use healthy coping skills . Instead of misbehaving to express emotions, a child can learn to take time out to calm down.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.