Be a team in the discipline of children
As parents you must be the best team in the discipline of children, this is how you can achieve it!
When it comes to parenting, it is imperative that parents learn to be a team and to follow the same path. Parents who do not follow the same path when it comes to disciplining their children will only transmit mistrust and insecurity to the little ones. These feelings can cause misbehavior and anxiety in children, no matter how old they are.
Parents need to keep in mind that they should be a team when it comes to disciplining their children, regardless of the differences they may have. It is essential to sit down and talk and agree on the parenting style and the rules and limits that they will establish at home. If you don’t know how to do it, follow these tips.
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ACCEPT YOUR DIFFERENCES
It is important to accept that you and your partner will disagree on parenting issues at some point, and this is totally normal. When one of the parents does not express his opinion, it will also be necessary to take it into account and work on it.
There are many different ways to raise a child. When you have different opinions about raising your children compared to the opinions of your partner, you should respect it. This does not mean that you should agree. You first have to feel comfortable accepting the disagreement. Think that you both want the best for your children, only with different perspectives, but the end goal is the same!
Think about the best parenting style, the one that is most suitable for children, and how to approach it together. Understanding how to each approach the same problem from a different perspective can be helpful. Temperament is also important to take into account, perhaps you have a higher tolerance for some behavior and your partner has a higher tolerance for another. Observe how each of the temperaments fits with the temperament of each child to achieve better results in the discipline and that you know a good team despite the possible differences you may have.
BE ON THE SAME GROUND
Once you have identified your differences, look for a neutral ground and have it as your exit. You likely have similar goals when it comes to parenting, even though you have different perspectives for achieving it. You both want to invest time and effort in ensuring that children grow up to be responsible adults.
You will have to sit down together and come up with a plan that you both agree on and want to follow. You do not necessarily have to agree on all aspects, but you will have to accept that you can be united in this. You need to compromise to get good results.
For example, you can both agree that your 8-year-old will have a reminder after eating to do his homework. If you don’t, you won’t have any leisure time. This can be an effective consequence that motivates you to do your homework the next day with or without a reminder.
ESTABLISH RULES AND NORMS AT HOME
It takes a strong team to set the rules at home. Think about them and write them before, the ones that are most important to both of you. Once you have the established rules, you will have to communicate them to the children. It depends on the age of your children, they may be more or less rules with a maximum of 10. They may not break the general rules such as respect, housework and knowing how to be.
You will also have to discuss the possible consequences (which you must agree on before discussing it with the children) in the event that the rules are broken. There need to be different consequences but they will be the same for all children. Rewards should also be discussed when the rules are met, as motivation for a positive behavior change.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.