The importance of ending the pressure to have children after the wedding
In today’s society there is a stigma that women should have children and if they don’t, it is a failure.
There are couples who look for the baby on the wedding night … but in reality that tradition is very obsolete and currently couples are looking for the right moment to be parents, either before or after being married. It is common for a newly married couple to have to answer questions about when they will have children and sometimes, it can be quite uncomfortable moments …
In today’s society there is a stigma that women should have children and, if they don’t, they are a failure as a wife and also as a woman. However, that is not the case, and this stigma must end.
It is a choice for women to have children, not the rest of the world. Even if these newly married women want children but wait to have them, the pressure to have children is still something that should not exist.
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PRESSURE FROM CLOSE PEOPLE
This pressure from your friends, family, in-laws, neighbors, and colleagues can ruin or strain a marriage. Not to mention, it can also provide them with a massive infighting that will upset and harm them and their relationship . This leaves many women wondering how to deal with the pressures to have children after marriage.
After all, they not only enjoy their newlywed status, but they are also busy with work and everything else that is a part of their life. The last thing anyone needs, even at any stage in life, is to be inundated with pressures that are not necessary from people. This is a private and personal decision. Some women want children, and others don’t …
And the same goes for men. There are also couples who want to have children but it is not so easy to get it. Finally, there are women who do want children, but who also wait a while for other reasons.
PRESSURE IS NEVER A GOOD IDEA
Regardless of what the scenario is for that person, the last thing they need is to feel pressured and still have to deal with the people who are pressuring them. Let’s end the stigma that women need to start having children once they get married. Let’s end the stigma that women must also have children to be women, and that they must have children to be a good wife.
None of that is true, and the pressure to have children must stop. It is the woman’s choice, and it is between her and her partner. If a woman does not want to have children, that does not make her less of a person, she is still the incredible person that she is. It just means that she knows what she wants, and is brave enough to do this. However, a woman should not be seen as brave because she will not have children.
A woman should be able to make a decision that suits her without having ramifications or judgment and opinions placed on her. Hopefully, as time goes by, women will be free to make this decision without having to deal with society, as it doesn’t matter what you choose, because it is your choice and you deserve to be happy.
If in any way you feel pressured to have children and you see that it is not the time or you simply cannot have them for whatever reason, let what society does not affect you. You are the owner of your decisions and no one should tell you what to do or how to live your life. Nobody knows what your life is like or what you feel, so do not justify yourself for the decisions that you think are correct right now in your life.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.
