How to improve the behavior of a disrespectful child
Find out how to improve the behavior of a disrespectful child by modifying his behavior in a positive way.
Perhaps your child sometimes rolls his eyes and responds with any expletive when you tell him to do a task. He may even be pretending that he doesn’t listen to you every time you tell him to stop playing the tablet … this is the soft (but not least) end of the spectrum of disrespect. The most serious extreme is disrespectful behavior and this includes ignorance of the rules, physical aggression or breaking the rules.
No matter where your child is on the spectrum, it’s paramount to address disrespect before it gets worse. A child who is disrespectful will turn into a rude and impolite adult. Do not excuse your child’s behavior by saying that they are children’s things, because this will not be a favor for him. Children need to learn how to treat others with respect so that they can develop healthy relationships with their peers, authority figures, and family members.
The lack of respect of a child is a sign that he needs help to understand the social and appropriate ways to handle his anger, his frustration and communicate in an effective, empathic and in any case also assertive way. Next we are going to talk about some effective consequences for disrespectful behavior, so your child will know how to behave in each case and how disrespect is never a good option.
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LOOK FOR BEHAVIOR IGNORE MINOR DISRESPECT
Ignoring minor disrespect may seem like a way for your child to get away with it … nothing is further from the truth. Selectively ignoring can be one of the most effective negative consequences. Ignoring doesn’t mean letting your child get away with it, it’s about refusing to let your child’s disrespect succumb to harmony.
If, for example, you tell your son to clean his room and he rolls his eyes at you, don’t get upset, don’t get into that game of arguments or battle of wills because of his disrespectful behavior. Every minute you spend in that power struggle will be 60 seconds lost for you and won for him. Give him a warning about what will happen if he doesn’t do what you tell him to do.
Talk about the consequences of disrespecting your child and how other people feel when they have this type of behavior. You can also explain the natural consequences of disrespectful behavior, such as that children who behave like this will have trouble making friends.
A SINGLE WARNING
Warnings help children understand what to do and what will happen if they don’t. For example, ‘If you don’t stop interrupting me while I’m on the phone with Grandma, you’ll have to go to your bedroom until I hang up the phone.’
This gives your child a chance to change his behavior . Just make sure you are fully prepared to meet a negative consequence if you don’t comply. Avoid repeating your warnings over and over again. Otherwise, you will train your child not to listen to you and that your words fall on deaf ears.
PROVIDES A NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCE
Most disrespectful behaviors should result in an immediate negative consequence. Consider your child’s age and the severity of the offense when determining the consequence. The timeout may be a consequence negative effective for young children. If your 6-year-old yells in your face when he’s angry, for example, send him to time out.
The logical consequences are most effective for older children and adolescents . If your child goes out the door with friends when you have told him not to leave, you will take away privileges such as going out another day with friends or going to that party that he wanted so much to go. You can also take the mobile from him for 24 hours or take the keys so that if he does the same thing again, he cannot enter the house with total freedom.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.