Make your defiant teenager more responsible

The adolescence is a difficult period for teenagers but also for parents who must deal with hormones revved their children, their identity crisis and attitudes that no parent wants to deal when he becomes a father … but that inevitably arrive with adolescence.

Experiencing the challenge of a teenager can be a difficult situation for everyone. Frequent misbehavior and defiance of house rules can be exhausting for parents. Everyone involved – the adolescent, the rest of the family, and you as a parent – will benefit when clear boundaries are set for the adolescent child. The results will not be overnight , but with time and effort on everyone’s part , you can even motivate your adolescent to end up with a much more responsible behavior.

Next, we are going to explain how you can get your teenager to go from being defiant and rebellious to becoming a more responsible boy or girl. You can take charge of your actions and understand that as a member of the family, you must collaborate for harmony and good coexistence at home.

CONNECT WITH YOUR TEENAGER

If fault of their behavior without realizing you’ve disconnected your child reconnect with your teen to solve the problem that I occupy. Without a good emotional connection between parents and teenage children, they will act defiantly due to the emotional insecurity they feel, even if they don’t tell you.

For this reason, you will have to communicate with love and listen with respect whenever he speaks to you. Show love in your words and in your actions to rebuild a relationship based on trust and respect.

APOLOGIZE

Following the first point that we have discussed above, it is also necessary to connect emotionally with your child , that you are able to apologize for the mistakes you have made or that you made in the past when disciplining your adolescent child badly.

If you have treated him in a disrespectful or unfair way, apologize and apologize by telling your teen that you intend to improve in those situations and that they are more positive times for both of you in the future.

MARK CLEAR BOUNDARIES

You need to create clear limits for your teenager, limits and rules that should not be wavering. Once you’ve created the boundaries, set clear consequences for each rule so that you could have made a tandem system that operates within your family and ensures that everyone acts responsibly.

Your child has to act responsibly by complying with the limits and you must also act responsibly by following the consequences that have been established previously. It is very important that the consequences are met, whether they are positive or negative so that in this way, the adolescent learns that each action has its reaction (or consequence in this case).

EXPLAIN THE LIMITS

Before using consequences or setting limits and rules , you need to explain it to your teen so that he understands what your expectations are. Make it clear to your teenager that you expect them to follow the rules and that they will have to follow them or the established consequences will be carried out.

CONTROL YOUR TEENAGER’S BEHAVIOR

Monitor your teen’s behavior to make sure they adhere to limits. The new boundaries are the establishment of a new respect in your family. A teenager can try and push limits or accept them with little effort. If you discover that your child has broken a rule or circumvented a requirement, follow through with the consequences as you promised from the beginning. 

However, do not apply consequences with severe anger.  Always speak calmly and respectfully to tell your child that they broke a rule so they can deal with the consequence. For example, if you don’t do your homework, you can’t use your mobile.